Emotional Turbulence: The Paradox of Sudden Breaks
Based on the given reasoning, a sudden break in a relationship does not appear as an unconditional means of disconnecting complications but as an act accompanied by turbulent emotions and inner conflict, which rather initiates a new round of struggle than leads to a final resolution of the problem. For example, one excerpt states:
"Patience with each other out of habit does not serve the preservation of love, nor does the masochism of patient waiting serve it. A compromise is the absence of hope – nothing more. Conversely, a breakup fuels hope for the next miracle that will continue. The Next Other will accept me without possession, love me without measure. That is why I need a breakup, violent and relentless. So that I can restore myself whole in the virginity of waiting. And when the Next Other appears, the game will begin anew, which will lead us into the same trap of our relentless nature." (source: link txt)
Here, the breakup is described not so much as a way to escape complications but as a mechanism that opens the path to a new beginning, one that inevitably entails the repetition of previous cycles. On the other hand, another quote emphasizes that a sudden breakup can escalate into an uncontrollable and fierce struggle if the other party in the relationship begins to resist:
"And if the Other begins to counteract with his own diminishing and calculations, then the breakup becomes uncontrollable and ferocious. In this case, the struggle is not for mere worldly gains but for life – all or nothing. Even if the Other mournfully and silently steps aside, leaving his wounds defenseless, I will not be able to see or feel his inner pain, continuing to see only my own. He has no right to be hurt – that right belongs only to me." (source: link txt)
Thus, a sudden breakup can expose deep emotional wounds and trigger conflict rather than guarantee relief from further complications. It instead becomes part of the complex dynamics within relationships, where each party becomes entangled in cycles of mutual blame and pain. Therefore, considering it an effective means of avoiding complications does not seem entirely justified – a sudden breakup might end one chapter, but it opens a new page of emotional confrontation.