Reclaiming Authentic Connection
When you don't appreciate the widespread interest your friends have in a particular game, a feeling of alienation can arise from the inner conflict between your true self and the demands of the group. One of the texts emphasizes that this alienation is connected to inner conflict and a loss of life’s meaning:"Alienated from everyone, a person without love and freedom becomes, in their proud self-assertion, akin to a fallen angel, a demon. Thus, as a result of a committed sin that brings about alienation from God, from the surrounding world, and even from the human essence itself, the apotheosis of freedom, understood as moral license, turns into the apotheosis of meaninglessness and despair. In this situation, overcoming alienation is possible provided one conquers personal selfishness and evil." (source: link txt)This quote shows that the battle against the feeling of alienation begins with inner work: it is crucial to become aware of and overcome the personal barriers—such as selfishness and negativity—that fuel this feeling. Instead of trying to please others by engaging in games that do not resonate with you, it is worth focusing on what truly forms authentic communication. Another source indicates that a genuine connection with people is not found in superficial interactions based on common, often conditional interests, but in a sincere meeting of individuals:"Loneliness is overcome only on the level of existence; it is overcome not by encountering the 'not-me', but by encountering the 'you', which is also 'me', not by meeting an object, but by meeting a subject." (source: link txt)Thus, if a popular game evokes rejection in you, it might be worthwhile to seek alternative forms of interaction where you can be yourself and find communication with people who share your values and interests. By working on your inner state and striving for more meaningful and authentic contact with those around you, you can lessen the feeling of alienation, even if you don't always share the majority's passions.