Navigating Family Conflict: Choosing Love Over Tradition
A daughter may choose a partner who does not show respect for her parents when her personal feelings and desire for independent choice take priority over traditional family values. In modern society, the choice of a marital partner is often based on love rather than on parental consent or recommendations, which can lead her to prefer someone with different value orientations. As noted in one source: "History knows different ways of choosing future spouses: by the will of the parents, through financial calculation, for various life or prestige considerations, by chance, or by love. Nowadays it is more common to marry (or get married) for love, though not without calculation" (source: link txt).This choice has a dual effect: on one hand, it reflects the pursuit of personal freedom and independence, and on the other, it can lead to family conflicts if the parental perspective is undervalued. For example, if the mother or other senior relatives perceive the daughter's partner as unsuitable due to a lack of respect, this may cause feelings of hurt and misunderstanding, which in turn affect the quality of family communication. One fragment of dialogue illustrates a situation when "...it seemed to me: this was not very pleasing to mother..." (source: link txt), indicating the likely emergence of tension and intrigues in intergenerational relations.Thus, when a daughter chooses a partner who does not share a respectful attitude toward her parents, it not only undermines traditional family unity but also creates the groundwork for conflicts, as the lack of alignment between personal priorities and the expectations of elders can lead to a disruption of emotional balance and mutual understanding within the family.