Emotional Restlessness and the Fear of Stability
One possible explanation for this situation may be that even if a person is attracted to a guy, he may experience an internal need for new experiences and quickly become saturated with emotional closeness. In one description of the character it is said: "Almost immediately enchanting and being enchanted—perhaps even first being enchanted, and only thereafter, by his own enchantment, enchanting others—Elchaninov quickly becomes satiated, tired, cools off, and leaves, and he leaves in an almost abrupt, in any case, brutal manner. He needs a constant change of impressions, otherwise he feels withered. Even literally with the most pleasant, dear face to him, with the most interesting book, he finds it difficult to sit for more than half an hour; he starts to yawn uncontrollably, his face pales, and he bolts off in search of new impressions." (source: link txt)Another aspect is related to certain personality traits, where a person may be prone to constant analysis and control over the situation. According to the description in the characteristic of one group, such individuals develop distrust and suspicion which prevents them from establishing stable, long-term relationships: "Second group: The Calculator - The Clinger. The Calculator is the one who is always keeping an eye on others. It is distrust, suspicion, and fear—arising from his profound egocentrism—that drive the Calculator to control everything. Incidentally, this may be one of the reasons why he is not attracted to stable relationships." (source: link txt)Thus, even if a person likes a guy, his internal personality traits—be it the need for constant emotional renewal or a tendency towards suspicion and control—can lead to him avoiding serious and long-term relationships.