The Magic of Tender Words
The use of affectionate, warm words has a significant positive effect on one’s emotional state and interpersonal relationships. Such words can immediately “lift” the mood of the listener, relieve tension, and even prevent potential quarrels.
For example, as noted in one source, if a woman has a warm word in reserve, she can instantly restore her partner’s mental balance and create a favorable atmosphere in the family:"If she, the dear woman, has a warm word in reserve, she will immediately bring him back to his senses: 'My clear bead, my beautiful moon, why are you fretful?Sit down quickly, everything is ready: here are some fritters, some kvass. Enjoy, God be with you,' and she will pat him on the head. Ah, the warm word!.. I think that this is the main factor in raising children. And we, priests, also value the warm word; we too need it. I recently ended up in a dental prosthetics office. The doctor was so surprised, asking: 'Why did you come here?' I replied: 'Why not? I am a person, and nothing human is alien to me.'" (source: link txt)It is also emphasized that a woman’s tender speech helps create an atmosphere where quarrels and resentments are absent, and the home is filled with warmth and mutual understanding. In another passage it is stated:"What can be said about a woman... When the husband arrives—sullen, gloomy, demoted from his position. Like an Eastern prince, he gazes fixated, much like Hermann Hesse’s steppe wolf. If she, the dear woman, has a warm word in reserve, she will immediately restore his spirits: 'My clear moon, my beautiful falcon, why are you fretful? Sit down quickly. Everything is ready: here are some fritters, some kvass. Enjoy, God be with you,' she says—and she pats him on the head. Of course, in such a case there will be no quarrels, no discontent, no verbal disputes. Ah, the warm word!" (source: link txt)Thus, affectionate words act as an effective "catalyst" for positive emotions, helping establish an emotional connection between partners and lowering stress levels. Special attention is given to how a woman, through gentle and caring speech, can not only support her partner but also create an atmosphere of heartfelt warmth in the family, which in turn positively affects both the relationship between the couple and the overall emotional climate in the home.