Breaking the Cycle of Negative Family Dynamics
The primary cause of repeated insults may be a reflection of deep-seated emotional issues within the family. In particular, if parents have unresolved psychological difficulties related to anxiety, anger, or confusion, these may be inadvertently passed on to their children. This leads the child to begin expressing their emotions through aggressive or insulting remarks.For example, one source states: "Of course, any instructor can only pass on what they have been well taught. Typically, parents try their utmost to teach their children to be happy. However, the problem lies in the fact that their own education once had its flaws. And if the parents' ability to be happy individuals is incomplete or distorted, then all the deficiencies and distortions will be inadvertently passed on to their children. When parents have unresolved psychological issues that cause anxiety, anger, confusion, and other complex emotions, they unconsciously express these towards their children." (source: link txt)Such a cycle of negative interaction can be fueled by recurring criticism from parents during childhood, eventually evolving into a form of insults. As seen in the following excerpt: "This can happen as follows. Suppose a father constantly criticizes and scolds his son when he falls short—not being able to solve a problem, losing in competitions, receiving a low grade..." (source: link txt) This behavior is internalized by the child as an acceptable way to express emotions and to assert themselves in situations of stress or failure.To effectively deal with such situations, one should uphold healthy personal boundaries and apply the principle of consistent censure of unacceptable behavior. It is important to respond not emotionally, but assertively, using moderate disciplinary measures that help defuse conflict and promote accountability for one’s words. For example, one source recommends the following approach: "Do not think that there will be weakness on your part if you do not do the same yourself.
What do you say if he shows disdain, or again begins to pester?Rebuke, forbid, admonish; anger is overcome by gentleness; go to him and reproach him." (source: link txt)Thus, to overcome repeated insults, it is necessary to understand that they may be rooted in a deep psychological conflict or a behavior pattern learned within the family, and then to implement a decisive yet calm approach—establish clear boundaries, timely rebuke wrongful actions, and engage in a constructive dialogue aimed at changing the pattern of interaction. This method will help break the negative cycle and create conditions for behavioral change.