- 20.03.2025
The Mask of Selfishness: Inner Wounds and External Accusations
Sometimes, when a person accuses others of selfishness, they themselves become a prisoner of their inner contradictions. A low level of emotional sensitivity and an inability to experience guilt can serve as the starting point for developing a defense mechanism in which one's own emotions are quickly transferred onto others. This approach becomes a method of avoiding the processing of painful internal feelings, where instead of looking within, the person searches outside their own consciousness for the culprits behind their dissatisfaction. Often, such patterns are accompanied by a deep sense of self-disdain: it is this internal rejection that forms the basis for the emergence of hidden resentment and anger, which is then relentlessly directed at those around them. Ultimately, this strategy—blaming others for selfishness—proves to be an attempt to compensate for one’s own feelings of unworthiness and to cope with inner pain by displaying external aggression. It is a reminder that behind external accusations often lie deep emotional wounds that require attention and sincere self-examination.