Rediscovering Inner Strength: Breaking Free from External Validation

In the modern world, where standards of success and recognition are dictated by external circumstances, every woman faces the challenge of preserving her individuality and inner strength. Losing touch with oneself often leads to seeking approval from others instead of engaging in equal partnerships. When a woman’s self-esteem is prone to fluctuations, she may start adopting imposed roles, sacrificing her life principles in exchange for external validation of her worth.

Such a scenario undermines the foundation of healthy partnerships, turning personal relationships into a game dominated by dependency and compromise. When the desire to affirm the status of wife and mother becomes the top priority, many are ready to make questionable choices just to avoid being outside the established social context—even if that means entering relationships devoid of mutual respect and equality. This path deprives a woman of the true strength needed to make well-considered decisions and forces her to seek support where it should not be found.

Ultimately, every person who is internally strong can achieve harmony only through self-respect. The true value lies in the ability to listen to one’s inner voice and stand up for one’s principles. For it is in this that the power to build healthy, equal relationships—capable of bringing joy, support, and mutual respect—resides.

What reasons might lead a woman to prefer dependency on other people rather than dependency on her spouse?

A woman may choose to depend on external people if she loses touch with her inner dignity and begins to seek validation of her worth outside of a healthy relationship with her spouse. For example, one text states:
"In reality, a woman who has lost her dignity, who is degraded, is unwanted by anyone. The sight of a wife who is on her knees literally kissing his feet evokes disgust in such a man, not pity. In other words, it is advisable for women: do not lose yourselves, your own dignity." (source: link txt)

This statement indicates that the tendency to humiliate oneself or to yield to such an extent that one’s personal identity disappears can lead a woman to seek approval and support from others rather than from her spouse, creating a form of dependency based not on equal partnership but on external validation.

Furthermore, another excerpt emphasizes that for some women, the desire to become a wife and mother takes on an unhealthy character. In this case, they may be ready to marry just anyone—even a person with clearly negative qualities—just to secure their status in society:
"Every woman is a potential wife and mother. But for some, this desire is not entirely healthy. If they feel that they've been 'staying among girls' for too long, they are willing to marry anyone: a drinker, a non-believer, even a drug addict, as long as they get married. They believe that they have such love that it is capable of performing miracles, and that this passionate feeling will undoubtedly re-educate the future husband, no matter who he is. As one famous rock singer sings: 'My immense love is enough for the two of us with our heads'." (source: link txt)

This reflects the idea that the fear of being left without status, the desire to fill a void, and the need to validate one’s own worth can drive a woman to compromise and become dependent on external circumstances or people, rather than building a healthy relationship with her spouse.

Thus, two main aspects can be highlighted:
1. The loss of one’s own dignity and self-respect, when a woman, by yielding to imposed roles, loses the inner foundation needed to make independent decisions.
2. An unhealthy pursuit of securing the status of wife and mother, which drives her to seek dependency in any relationship—even if it means choosing a partner who does not meet the standards of a healthy coexistence.