Breaking the Mold: Embracing Individuality Despite Traditional Expectations

In modern society, success is often unambiguously associated with choosing a prestigious profession and obtaining an “honorable” education. Parents believe that such decisions will secure a promising future and high social status for their children, which in turn reflects on the reputation of the entire family. However, behind this confidence lies a deep-seated fear of judgment and stigmatization, where any deviation from conventional norms is seen as disgrace or a failure in upbringing. Today, it is increasingly important to support every child's desire to express their individuality and find their own calling, regardless of societal stereotypes. After all, the true essence of success lies not so much in the profession one earns, but in choosing a life path that reflects personal values and moral guidelines. It is crucial to remember that genuine happiness and fulfillment come when a person discovers who they are and lives in harmony with their beliefs, rather than merely satisfying the expectations of others.

Why do parents often prefer that their children choose traditional professions instead of pursuing an artistic path?

Parents often hold the view that a child's success is determined by choosing a prestigious and socially stable profession. They believe that obtaining an “honorable” education and engaging in a traditional occupation will ensure a promising future and social recognition, which in turn affects the entire family’s reputation. For example, one text states:

“Mothers usually think that the most important thing is for their children to obtain prestigious specialties. There is no need to push them into ‘high’ science and other professions. What matters is how we execute it. It is important not what the child becomes, but what kind of person they are. That is where it should begin. And they begin with the profession. This is a mistake. In the Kingdom of Heaven, the Lord will not ask what kind of education you had. He will ask: ‘What were you like? What did you choose: good or evil?’”
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In the same context, it is emphasized that for many parents, deviating from the traditional path—for instance, choosing a profession not associated with higher education—is perceived as a violation of norms and even a disgrace for the family:

“It turns out that failure in upbringing is not when a child does not receive higher education, but when they do not find themselves. But how often do parents get frightened if their child goes to a vocational school instead of an institute! Or fails to go anywhere at all, simply learning a craft. This is considered a disgrace for the parents. Stereotypes are at work here.”
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Thus, the preference for traditional professions is explained not only by parents’ personal beliefs about the necessity of “fulfilling a duty” to societal norms, but also by a fear of social stigmatization. Parents strive for their children to appear successful in the eyes of others and to have the opportunity to “make it in life,” which is often associated with obtaining a prestigious education and a stable, publicly recognized job.