In a world where our requests are sometimes directed solely toward our fleeting desires, it becomes evident that prayers often go unheard due to a superficial approach.

The Silence That Speaks: Deepening Our Connection with God

In a world where our requests are sometimes directed solely toward our fleeting desires, it becomes evident that prayers often go unheard due to a superficial approach. Too often we turn to God with selfish intentions, not even realizing that every word we utter matters not only to us but also to those around us. When we ask for personal well-being while ignoring the common good, our pleas may not find an answer, because true spiritual communication requires not only words but also deep maturity and accountability for our intentions.

On the other hand, when a person wholeheartedly and with sincere desire seeks to engage in dialogue with the Lord, the absence of an immediately perceptible response can be felt all the more painfully. Silence, which sometimes is even quieter than refusal, may lead us to doubt not only the strength of our own faith but also the very possibility of establishing a genuine connection with the Heavenly Father. This trial is twofold: it pushes us to search more deeply, to reflect and rethink the meaning of our spiritual conversations, so that our prayers may become an expression of a true and profound relationship with life.

The key to effective spiritual communication lies in developing a personal bond with God, where faith becomes an integral part of the soul. To feel supported and to hear an Answer, it is necessary not only to reach out to Him but also to continually strengthen our faith, much like a tiny seed capable of growing and providing the power of close communion. Establishing a relationship with God, whom we understand as a personality, opens up possibilities for genuine spiritual intimacy, allowing us not only to ask but also to understand—to see in every trial a lesson, and in silence, a call for further self-improvement.

Why do some people believe that prayers go unanswered, and how can one establish a connection with God?

Some people believe that prayers go unanswered because they are often aimed at goals that turn out to be superficial or even selfish. As noted in one source, “Often this happens because their prayer is nothing more than childish nonsense. I remember an elderly person telling me that in his childhood he spent many months asking God to grant him an amazing ability… Often our prayers are as childish as this one, and of course, they go unfulfilled. We are very often convinced that we are praying correctly, but we are praying about something that also concerns other people, whom we do not consider at all. When we pray for a tailwind for ourselves, we do not think about the fact that it may turn into a storm at sea for others, and God will not grant a request that brings harm to others.” (source: link txt)

Additionally, when prayers come from the heart and, at first glance, seem truly worthy of being heard, the absence of an answer—or silence—is perceived as particularly painful. One text describes this in detail: “Beyond these two obvious points, there is another, much more significant and profound aspect: sometimes we pray to God from the heart for something that, from every perspective, seems worthy of being heard, only to be met with silence—and enduring silence is much harder than facing refusal. If God says no, it is still a positive reaction on His part, but silence is like an absence of God, leading us to two temptations: when our prayer does not receive an answer, we begin to doubt either God or ourselves.” (source: link txt)

As for establishing a connection with God, the key is developing a personal, deep communion with Him. One source emphasizes that the Lord listens to those who possess strong faith: “One person is listened to immediately by the Lord: as soon as he asks, the Lord provides; while another must pray day and night, cry out to God for a very long time. ... And for us, for the Lord to fulfill our prayer, our faith must be strengthened to be, at least, like a mustard seed.” (source: link txt) This means that to establish a personal connection with God, it is not enough to merely turn to Him; it is also necessary to strengthen our inner faith, striving for a close relationship based on the recognition of His personality.

Another source notes an important difference in the understanding of God: “In Islam, God is not considered a personality, so it is impossible for a person to approach Him. What struck me most in the Gospel was the attitude toward God as a person. That which my soul longed for and which I did not find in Islam—God with whom one can establish a personal connection. I am a person and can establish a connection with God only if He too is a person. If the Evangelists are right, and God truly incarnated in Jesus, then personal relationships between man and God are possible. I found hope.” (source: link txt) Here it is emphasized that establishing a connection is possible through a personal perception of God as an individual with whom one can interact and build a relationship, which forms the basis for accepting prayers and engaging in spiritual communication.

Thus, according to one perspective, prayers may go unanswered due to their superficial nature, where true communication is replaced by requests that do not consider the common good. To establish a genuine connection with God, one must deepen one’s faith and nurture personal relationships based on the awareness of His personality and love, as illustrated by the example of close communion and faith capable of “moving mountains” even with faith comparable to a mustard seed.